The Value of a Name

The Value of a Name

Prior to being engaged, it never occurred to me that I would face the question of whether or not to change my last name. As naïve as that may sound, taking on the name of a man as my own “new” name never struck me as a question. To do so was the customary practice in the...

To Be or Not To Be a Le...

Being a lesbian is very tempting. Ask any straight woman (and I mean in particular women who have done the dating thing in New York for more than one year), and you will quickly find a secretly harbored desire to have been born a lesbian. This might seem to be an overly generalized...

Power/Games: Notes on t...

A stripper I used to know liked to wax poetic on themes of Bill Clinton’s sexuality. His penis seemed to fly like an eternally burning Hindenburg through the cloudscapes of her imagination: “Man, I’d love to get my hands on Bill Clinton’s dick,” she’d...

Sexual Addiction is a &...

Many people don’t know what sexual addiction is. Some people even deny that it exists. However, from my work as a prison educator and an adjunct associate professor at John Jay College, it is clear to me that sexual addiction not only does exist, but that it has destructive...
Ivory Tower Sex in Film: It’s a Joke

Ivory Tower Sex in Film...

WALT: Dad, what’s gradual school? GARP: Gradual school? WALT: Yeah, Mommy said that she teaches kids who go to gradual school. GARP: Oh! Well, gradual school is where kids go and then gradually realize that they don’t want to go to school anymore … Michael Douglas and...